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How our personal bias limits leaders.

There are many qualities that make a great leader. Whether you head up a small team in your office, are the CEO of a large corporation or a leader on the world stage the same qualities apply: clear vision, sound decision-making and the use of team strengths through delegation. Unconscious bias limits all leaders, as beliefs and attitudes that go unacknowledged and unchallenged undermine a leader’s impact and effectiveness.

Everyone has biases. These belief systems and outlooks take shape in our formative years when we don’t have the cognitive ability to reflect and critique. These attitudes become so embedded in our thinking that we no longer question their validity or usefulness and are unaware of how they shape much of what we do and say. For those who lead others, who need to present a clear vision for the future of their team, being aware of and understanding our biases is essential.

Bias limits leaders as it clouds vision

First, unconscious bias clouds the vision of a leader by limiting what they are able to see. This is evident in political arenas where often policy (vision encoded in law) is reduced to a three or four-word slogan. Examples range from Stop the Boats and Make America Great Again to Get Brexit Done. Such slogans are effective rallying cries behind which others can gather. However, policy shaped by biases can never be impartial – bias that privileges border protection over humanitarian relief, bias that is limited to only one way of looking at what makes a nation, and bias that ignores the wishes of a large percentage of the population. Vision is vital for a leader. When that vision is clouded by unconscious biases it is harder to make clear decisions.

Bias limits options

Second, leaders need to make unimpeded decisions. It’s essential that leaders look at a variety of aspects and considerations. Then, drawing on their experience and knowledge, make a decision that is best for the team. Bias limits the considerations and operations passed under review. I regularly mention my experience working with asylum seekers on Nauru because it, cliché-ishly, changed my life. I came face-to-face with my racist bias in the first month I was there. I’m so glad that happened because when I needed to make decisions that impacted the whole cohort of asylum seekers, I was able to see clearly. Because bias impedes our ability as leaders to make clear decisions it can further interfere with how leaders delegate responsibility.

Bias undermines trust

Delegating responsibility and tasks to team-members is a third vital aspect of being a good leader. At its heart, delegation involves trust. A leader must trust that the person to whom they delegate a task or responsibility will be able to fulfil that role. However, a leader who doesn’t feel they can trust people in their team finds themselves with a greater workload as they do the job themselves or micro-manage others. There may be good reasons why a leader chooses not to delegate to certain team members. However, bias can be so entrenched in an organisation or corporation that it is rarely questioned. Thus bias ensures that particular groups are rarely selected for senior roles or greater responsibility. Unconsciously, the message is given that this group is unable to be trusted. Consequently, both the team and the leader are impacted.

Strong leaders have three qualities in common: clear vision, sound decision-making abilities and they display trust by delegating roles and responsibilities. Unconscious bias can cloud that vision, impede decision-making and impact delegation. But it doesn’t have to be this way because bias is a choice. Would you agree? Why? Why not?


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How do leaders handle difficult emotions?

Have you ever felt rage, or any other difficult emotion, so deeply and intensely that it threatened your ability to operate normally? If this happened in the workplace, how did you manage that?

Rage is a difficult emotion

The rage I felt was cold and deep. It sat on my chest with such weight that I felt that if I didn’t get out of the water I’d forget how to swim. My rage, an emotion I have rarely felt (I’ve been angry, but this was very different) was one of many emotions I experienced in the last month of my mum’s life. It manifested itself after Mum agreed to go in aged care.

I was elated that, after a year of negotiating this next step with my very switched on and independent mother, she had finally agreed that she could no longer look after herself and would make the move to aged care. In that year, Mum had been hospitalised four times, two because of significant breaks from falling over. In that year, my siblings, their partners and myself had tag-teamed being with Mum in her house, because we knew that she was no longer safe to be on her own.

My rage came from feeling that we’d all wasted a year delaying the inevitable. That in that year, Mum would have found a new lease on life, perhaps not fallen as much and we would have been saved months of worry that lay beneath every decision we made.

Now, I know there may be people who will decry my feeling such a thing in the face of Mum’s impending passing. But emotions have no moral value. They are neither good nor bad. They just are.

But what we do with them is key.

How can we handle difficult emotions?

Usually we have three choices with emotions, be they easy to handle or unpleasant.

  1. We can resist them and push them down – only to have them rear up when we least expect them to.
  2. We can give vent to them in an unrestrained and unfiltered way with accompanying consequences (even unrestrained joy can be difficult for those around us to handle).
  3. Or we can acknowledge what we feel and then decide how we want to respond.

With my rage, I got out of the water because I knew I had to focus on what I was feeling. I went and sat in my car and explored not only what I was feeling but dug into the why, and then returned to Mum’s place and chose not to act out of that emotion. I understood why she resisted the move for so long and it was important for me to hold both my own emotions and my understanding of my mother in balance – and then choose how to deal with the situation.

So how do we apply this as women who lead?

What can a leader do with difficult emotions in the workplace?

In any situation where we lead others we will be triggered by their actions, attitudes and emotions. That is unavoidable. And, unfortunately, women and their opinions are unfairly dismissed as being too emotional and thus less valid. But the strength of women is that ability to tap into their emotions. Emotions are indicators of things happening at an unconscious level that, when identified, can bring deeper awareness to a situation.

When a situation arises as a leader that triggers a deep emotional response:

  1. Allow the emotion its space to just be – give time to recognising exactly what you are feeling.
  2. Try to identify what the trigger was and why this event has elicited this particular emotion. However, don’t judge yourself or the emotion.
  3. Decide how to respond both to the emotion and the situation that triggered it. What you do with the emotion is key to your growth and effectiveness as a leader.

Emotions can be wonderful tools for self-awareness and self-leadership. Acknowledge the presence of emotions. Allow them space, let them pass of their own accord and in their own time. Use emotions to lead others, and yourself, well.

How are you handling your difficult emotions?

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