I see women engrossed in living fulfilled lives, whatever shape that takes for them.
When was the last time you felt captivated by your life?
When did you last look at life and think, “This is enthralling…I can’t tear my eyes away!”?
Have you ever felt your life was mesmerising?
If the answer to these questions is ‘never’ and ‘no’ then you’re not alone.
Let’s take a step back now. Has someone ever said to you, “You’re amazing!”? Or, “You’re really inspiring!”? Or maybe, “You are so brave.”
Is there a ‘yes’ to even one of these questions? I’m sure there is.
Fulfilled = extraordinary
Most of us look at our own lives and deem them commonplace, ordinary, boring even. Others look at our lives and see something completely different. Why is that? I think it’s because we know the nitty-gritty of our lives. We are familiar with its pain and struggles, with the difficulties that we face because we have no other choice. And we think that our lives are probably not hugely different from those of other women, so how could our lives be enthralling, engrossing or captivating?
It is true that women share similar stories and face common issues, regardless of their socio-economic background, their cultural heritage, their education level or their birth order place. And women too often face some form of domestic abuse which they seek to resolve or leave, and then heal from.
But as well as the commonality of struggle, women share the ability to be extraordinary.
Extra – ordinary. Above the ordinary. Beyond the ordinary.
Fulfilled = meaning + purpose
In some parts of the world, just to survive childhood is extraordinary for females. And to survive intact is even rarer. But, it is the shared ability of women to rise above the circumstances of their lives, to bear the pains of the past and to keep going, and to thrive in a new space – that is what makes women extraordinary.
So, to live engrossed in your own life…what would that mean?
It would mean that life has meaning, purpose and fulfilment.
Life has meaning – there is a reason for you and I being alive. Our lives are of value. And despite our commonalities and shared experiences, our lives are unique.
Life has purpose – our lives have significance. If we didn’t live or achieve our purpose, then the collective whole would be lacking.
Life has fulfillment – it is lived to the fullest of what we are capable of, given our unique limitations and challenges. It is a life lived with those we care about and who care about us. It is a life lived so that at the end we can look back and know we have lived a rich full life – whatever shape it has taken.
Fulfilled = to rise above
Let me give you a personal example.
I have been told many many times that I am very brave. Why?
Because I left my husband of 28 years – against the pressure of my upbringing, and the pressure of my church doctrine, and the pressure of my social group.
I didn’t feel brave at the time. It cost me to leave and it has cost me in many ways ever since. But…it was brave.
And I have had other women reach out to me to say they have finally left their toxic marriages because they watched me do my journey – even from afar, and although they lacked the courage when I left they have that courage now.
Fulfilled = unique
To live a fulfilled life looks different to every person. What it looks like for me is different to what it looks like for you.
But I believe every woman can live a fulfilled life. And the shape it takes is up to her…and no-one else.
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